take a deep breath.
Therapy for women who need more balance.
Punishing yourself doesn’t work. If it did, you wouldn’t be here.
You feel exhausted from burnout and stress, which makes it harder to cope with your anxiety. You want to relax but you either don’t know how, or don’t believe you deserve to yet. Maybe a little bit of both. You also find it difficult to improve your mood and be patient with yourself as a self-critical perfectionist. When you experience these challenges along with major life changes or trouble in your relationships, it’s enough to completely overwhelm you.
I’m here to help you to give yourself permission to live differently and break these cycles that are no longer working for you. When you practice self-compassion and trust yourself to slow down, your goals will feel more attainable. You'll feel like yourself again. You can breathe. Instead of carrying constant guilt and shame, what would it feel like to be more kind with yourself? Can you create opportunities for joy during the process of self-improvement instead of withholding pleasure until your meet your goals? Allowing yourself to seek relief and gratitude throughout the process of growth will help you engage in more realistic changes that create lasting results, without punishment and self-imposed consequences.
Be honest with yourself: It’s time for a change.
You’re used to evaluating and analyzing everything, focusing on metrics and how things look and sound. But what about feelings? When you identify what feels right and wrong, you can start to make changes. Perfect on paper doesn’t automatically translate to feeling your best. If you can't relax and enjoy downtime without feeling guilty about being unproductive, its time a for a change. It’s time to unlearn and release old ways of being that no longer serve you. We’ll find better replacements.
You know you don’t have to prove yourself at work, but you keep setting the bar so high. Your ambition is admired by others but they don’t see how much it hurts you, keeping you up at night when you think you should be doing more. Your patience wears thin, so you snap at your partner over something so small. Your actions don’t reflect your best self and then you fall into a spiral of guilt and shame. You say you thrive on chaos and feel energized with your hectic schedule, but you’re actually running on empty.
There’s a disconnect between what you’ve achieved on paper and how you see yourself. You can’t keep up with the unrealistic goals you keep setting for yourself, and the demands of your life are boxing you in. You’re always looking to do more, not less, even though you complain about having too much on your plate. You feel so close to being who you want to be, but you can’t seem to get there. There’s always another obstacle coming up to prevent you from relaxing and taking a break.
Your ambition used to energize you, but now you just feel drained. You worry that your work, relationships, and personal life will suffer if you stop caring or trying so hard. You believe your anxiety used to help you perform well but now it’s getting in the way of what you know you’re capable of. Your identity is tied to your accomplishments and you don’t want to lose yourself… but what if you already have?
You’re tired of striving for perfection, but you don’t know how else to operate.
when achieving perfection feels impossible:
The systems you created for yourself are burning you out instead of helping.
You fall into a cycle of neglecting yourself until you accomplish a goal, then feeling like you can’t do anything until you recover because you depleted all of your energy.
Your rigid routines and attempts to keep up with wellness trends exhaust you when you want them to energize you.
Don’t wait until you hit your breaking point.
You don’t need to wait until you have a panic attack at work to think about setting boundaries. You may think your feelings aren’t severe enough to warrant a change now, and that mentality serves a purpose that keeps you stuck in overdrive. You always push yourself beyond your limits and only rest when you feel that you’ve earned it.
I want to challenge the way you currently operate and help evaluate every area of your life. I hope you can listen when I say that it’s not normal to have nightmares about missing deadlines, feel lightheaded from no food and too much caffeine, or wish that you’d break your ankle so you don’t have to go into the office for a while. I’m here to help you understand where these beliefs have come from, and if there’s a better way for you to live. My hope is that you’ll give yourself permission to slow down and get curious about how you’ve pushed yourself to this point.
Let’s focus on…
Creating a sense of personal and professional balance
Finding joy outside of accomplishing goals
Defining your self-worth beyond what you do at work
Enjoying the process before you reach your desired outcome
We will not…
Minimize your ambition
Shrink your goals
Limit possibilities for growth
Believe that you can’t achieve what you set your mind to
feeling inspired?